The intricacies of friendship – nowadays – is so crucial because you just never know who you can trust. And more importantly, you never know who will be a true ally when push comes to shove, therefore, when you find some badass people who go through the thick with you, keep them. And, as for the rest, cut them loose!
We have the choice of being picky with whom we choose to let into our close circles, because like a box of crayons, life is just so colourful, but not every colour has to fit in the box. Therefore, it becomes about picking your favourite colours because selecting friends is almost like selecting your favourite crayons – you only want the best, because you deserve the best.
Friendship is one of those parts of life that is a necessity, as much as breathing is. It helps you through the tough times, and it nourishes you in the good – an important thing in life.
In the last few years, more so, when I turned 28 and onwards, and now especially that I’m in my 30s, I’ve become picky with whom I choose to associate myself with, and more importantly, whom I let into my circle. There comes a time when we have to make some decisions about what’s feeding us in a positive way – and helping to build us up – as opposed to tearing us down. And I’m there … and it is a crazy/beautiful sight to behold. If I have cut you off, our friendship ran its course. I wish you well.
In recent weeks, and while practicing social distancing, I’ve questioned certain friendships and have been “culling the herd” so to speak. This has allowed me to remove a lot of dead weight, which has been great and also connect with friends that mean a lot to me. I’m grateful for the time to connect. The demise has opened the door to new and more-aligned people in my life – different “greener” pastures that offer more sustenance.
Now being in quarantine, who has checked in on you? And vice-versa? When it comes to people in your life, ask yourself, who are your people? Do you know your people? There is no better time to sit down and think about those that you call friends.
As we distance, whom have you let go of? How do you feel?
... S. xo