Relationships 101: It’s Okay To Be Alone

Through many of life’s challenges, the outcome is always (at least it should be) the same – GROWTH. Whether it’s experiencing pain, conflict, fighting, arguments, power struggles ..etc., at the end of it all, in order to gain control of oneself there needs to be GROWTH. The reason this is vital in relationships is simple: if something is not progressing, it’s stagnant.Every person deserves to experience love, intimacy, a connection, romance and a fulfilling loving relationship. And often people get lost either looking for this in a relationship or chasing after it in a relationship they want. But a lot of times, choosing to work on ourselves and not focusing on this chase may just be the solution to finding the right relationship. According to Derrick Jaxn, a self love expert, “If he’s an emotionally healthy man with good character, he’s going to look for that partner and best friend. Someone who not only can he trust, but also has the emotional capacity to trust him as well”. Attraction is in more ways than one directly linked to expansion; the people we are attracted to serve as our mirror, exposing the aspects we chose to deny. In a sense, our relationships with others represent our relationship with ourselves.

After watching the umpteenth romantic comedy and drinking a glass of delicious red wine, I found myself at this resolution: it is sometimes way better to rebuild. It’s amazing the amount of openness and insight we can get from others when we decide to ‘relax’ things and relieve the pressure associated with relationships because we put so much pressure on ourselves to find “the one” or “someone”. Sometimes, it’s okay to be alone and to value that time to grow, to be independent and to nurture the soul because that’s the only way to find what we are looking for. It is perfectly okay to work on ourselves so that when we are ready to mingle, we aren’t offering something mediocre to someone else. Someone pointed out to me that the frequency you radiate outwards will attract the person on the same frequency wave. So, by focussing on self love and becoming whole, we will also attract someone who loves themselves completely, and is whole. And when two whole people come together, magic happens.

If you found your love, perhaps you can share your story. Did you find your magic after finding self love?